How to Take Back Your Power and Dig Out of Your Resentment (One Shovelful at a Time)

Lately, I’ve been getting a lot of pleas for help around this whole resentment thing. Yesterday, two women wrote me complaining that their husbands weren’t there for there emotionally or financially during some intense life challenges. And then there was the man who asked for advice after his wife physically and emotionally distanced herself from […]

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The book is out–and it’s FREE this weekend!

I’m SO excited to announce that my new book, 9 Steps to Heal Your Resentment and Reboot Your Marriage, is now available! As a giant thank you to all of you incredible folks, I’d like to offer you this book for FREE  tomorrow and Saturday (until midnight MST Sat, December 13th). All you have to […]

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How the Past Affects Your Resentment (and What You Can Do About It)

Hi folks! Thanks so much for all your emails about last week’s tips! I’m SO glad that my tips on communicating more clearly (so we can let go of our resentment) were so helpful. For today’s post, I’d like to dig into some of the deeper roots behind our resentment—the (gulp) past! So strap yourself […]

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11 Ways to Ease Your Resentment (and Still Get What You Want)

So, how did Thanksgiving go? Anyone still standing? I hope so, because we still have a few more weeks of holidays to go! So let’s jump right in with a few more tips for surviving the holidays and getting rid of your resentment. After my last post, lots of folks emailed to let me know […]

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How to Survive the Holidays Without Killing Your Spouse

Is your spouse driving you nuts? If you’re anything like the rest of us, you’re feeling stressed and overextended now that the holidays have kicked in. Add some holiday travel and extended family into the mix and suddenly you’re drowning. Let’s see if I can help by sharing a few tips for surviving the holidays […]

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The Sex-Starved Marriage (and How to Fix it)

I wanted to share this TEDx talk with you because I think it can help a lot of us. In this thought-provoking talk, Michele Weiner-Davis shows us why sex plays such an important role in communication and connection, then teaches us what we can do to fix it. Especially recommended for anyone who feels like […]

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Reboot Your Brain (and Save Your Marriage in the Process)

Lately, I’ve been reading a lot about how our brains are wired for negativity. Back in the old days, this negativity bias helped us survive by constantly scanning the horizon for trouble. But since we no longer need to be on alert for lion attacks (well, most of us, anyway), our brain keeps us needlessly […]

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What My Mother’s Death Taught Me About Life

So many of us are struggling to break the patterns we’ve inherited from our families. I hope this essay I recently published on Gawker helps someone out there break free from their family chains — or at least reconsider their family stories with fresh eyes.

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Tribute to My Parents

As many of you know, my mother recently passed away. Here’s a tribute to my parents that recently ran in the The New York Times’ “The Lives They Loved.”    

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How Do You Know When It’s Time to Give Up?

Lately, I’ve received a slew of messages from disgruntled marrieds ready to throw in the towel.  Some are still struggling; others have separated or divorced. All of which makes me wonder: how do you know when it’s time to give up? First of all, let me say that this is an incredibly personal decision, and […]

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