How to Survive the Holidays Without Killing Your Spouse

Is your spouse driving you nuts? If you’re anything like the rest of us, you’re feeling stressed and overextended now that the holidays have kicked in. Add some holiday travel and extended family into the mix and suddenly you’re drowning. Let’s see if I can help by sharing a few tips for surviving the holidays […]

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The Sex-Starved Marriage (and How to Fix it)

I wanted to share this TEDx talk with you because I think it can help a lot of us. In this thought-provoking talk, Michele Weiner-Davis shows us why sex plays such an important role in communication and connection, then teaches us what we can do to fix it. Especially recommended for anyone who feels like […]

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Reboot Your Brain (and Save Your Marriage in the Process)

Lately, I’ve been reading a lot about how our brains are wired for negativity. Back in the old days, this negativity bias helped us survive by constantly scanning the horizon for trouble. But since we no longer need to be on alert for lion attacks (well, most of us, anyway), our brain keeps us needlessly […]

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What My Mother’s Death Taught Me About Life

So many of us are struggling to break the patterns we’ve inherited from our families. I hope this essay I recently published on Gawker helps someone out there break free from their family chains — or at least reconsider their family stories with fresh eyes.

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Tribute to My Parents

As many of you know, my mother recently passed away. Here’s a tribute to my parents that recently ran in the The New York Times’ “The Lives They Loved.”    

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How Do You Know When It’s Time to Give Up?

Lately, I’ve received a slew of messages from disgruntled marrieds ready to throw in the towel.  Some are still struggling; others have separated or divorced. All of which makes me wonder: how do you know when it’s time to give up? First of all, let me say that this is an incredibly personal decision, and […]

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How to Face Your Fears and Finally Commit

 Note: Today’s post is written by Alexis Meads, a lifestyle and wellness coach.  A few weeks ago, I got married. We’re having our wedding in Greece this coming May, but had decided to get legally married at the courthouse beforehand. Let me tell you, I was panicking. Since the thrill of the engagement wore off, […]

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Notes from the Colorado Flood

As most of you know, Colorado was hit by massive flash flooding on September 12, wrecking havoc across the state. Ken and I were lucky, with only a few inches of flooding in the basement. I wish I could say that was the case for many others. To date, 8 people have been killed, nearly […]

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Why It Might Be Time to Change Our Expectations

When I first met Ken, he used to tell me that my expectations were causing me grief.  Ten years later, I finally get it.  I also see how expectations are creating havoc in most of our marriages. Think about it: does your spouse ever live up to your expectations? Isn’t there always something more he […]

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Enough of the Fighting, Already!

As a former revolutionary freedom-fighter (ha! in my mind, maybe) I can be way rougher on Ken than I need to be.  Or at least way rougher than some of my friends. Then I read a couple of articles that helped me put things into perspective.  The first one talked about the importance of navigating […]

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