What My Mother’s Death Taught Me About Life

So many of us are struggling to break the patterns we’ve inherited from our families. I hope this essay I recently published on Gawker helps someone out there break free from their family chains — or at least reconsider their family stories with fresh eyes.

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Tribute to My Parents

As many of you know, my mother recently passed away. Here’s a tribute to my parents that recently ran in the The New York Times’ “The Lives They Loved.”    

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How Do You Know When It’s Time to Give Up?

Lately, I’ve received a slew of messages from disgruntled marrieds ready to throw in the towel.  Some are still struggling; others have separated or divorced. All of which makes me wonder: how do you know when it’s time to give up? First of all, let me say that this is an incredibly personal decision, and […]

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How to Face Your Fears and Finally Commit

 Note: Today’s post is written by Alexis Meads, a lifestyle and wellness coach.  A few weeks ago, I got married. We’re having our wedding in Greece this coming May, but had decided to get legally married at the courthouse beforehand. Let me tell you, I was panicking. Since the thrill of the engagement wore off, […]

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Notes from the Colorado Flood

As most of you know, Colorado was hit by massive flash flooding on September 12, wrecking havoc across the state. Ken and I were lucky, with only a few inches of flooding in the basement. I wish I could say that was the case for many others. To date, 8 people have been killed, nearly […]

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Why It Might Be Time to Change Our Expectations

When I first met Ken, he used to tell me that my expectations were causing me grief.  Ten years later, I finally get it.  I also see how expectations are creating havoc in most of our marriages. Think about it: does your spouse ever live up to your expectations? Isn’t there always something more he […]

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Enough of the Fighting, Already!

As a former revolutionary freedom-fighter (ha! in my mind, maybe) I can be way rougher on Ken than I need to be.  Or at least way rougher than some of my friends. Then I read a couple of articles that helped me put things into perspective.  The first one talked about the importance of navigating […]

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Let’s Hear it for the Boys

With Father’s Day right around the corner, I’d like to take a few minutes to celebrate our men.  Because as much as we complain about them, do we really ever tell them how much we appreciate them? Why is that? Well, I think it’s because we expect way too much of them, in the same […]

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The Root of Our Troubles–and What We Can Do About it

Thanks, everyone, for your patience these past couple of months. My mother passed away in December and it’s taken me a while to get back into regular life, much less this blog. So. Here we go…. If there’s one thing I’ve learned this last year, it’s that most of our problems revolve around a basic—but […]

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How to Save Time, Lessen Your Frustration and Help Get Your Relationship Back on Track

Frustrated and pissed off at your spouse? Wondering how you’ll get through another stressful, jam-packed holiday season? Sure you are.  We all are.  It’s tough enough to stay on top of things during normal times, but how are you supposed to do that during times of high-stress, when you’ve got 65 daily to-dos that need […]

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