Well, if you’re anything like us, you’re starting to get crazy and overextended, which is always such a joy. And this is even before we’ve entered the actual holidays, much less added traveling to the mix. Yikes!
So let me see if I can help by sharing a few tips my therapist friend Scarlet gave me for surviving the holidays:
TIP #1: If your holidays involve extended family, remember that you or your spouse is going to regress at some point and start acting like you did when you were a kid. Especially if anyone’s parents are involved.
Yes, I know. You thought you were past that! We all did. But the sad truth is that once you stick us back into our family of origin, we start acting like we did when we were 12. Or two.
Know this, plan for it and act accordingly. Do whatever it is you have to do to maintain your sanity, whether it’s threatening your kid sister with a pair of nunchucks (kidding!), eating an entire chocolate fountain by yourself (kidding again!) or taking a jog around the blog. You choose.
TIP #2: When you’re with extended relatives, come up with a signal you and your spouse can use when
- you’re about to flip your lid,
- you need to escape to the spare bedroom, the next city or hell, the next flight or
- you need your spouse to take the kids for 15 minutes before you snap and start biting the heads off bats like Ozzie Osbourne did back in the ‘day.
By the way, you can also use this signal when you feel like your spouse has morphed into a CroMag and you want to reconnect. Even just it just means stepping in to the next room together for 30 seconds to make sure you’re on the same page. About anything.
Your signal can be anything from a secret handshake to a pat on the back to a previously-agreed-upon code word to a full-on rendition of “Help.”
Now, go forth, be merry and prosper in Ye Olde Holidays.
And good luck!