19 Things I Learned in the ICU

I’ve spent the last two weeks at the hospital, caring for a loved one.  Here’s what I’ve learned:

1. It’s always easier to blame someone or something else for whatever went wrong.
2. Blaming solves nothing.
3. Most of the shit we worry about doesn’t really matter.
4. Love, love and more love.  That’s where it’s at, folks.
5. When in doubt, start asking questions.
6. Why do we wait until it’s almost too late before we realize what’s really important?
7. After the adrenaline rush of a crisis wears off, don’t be surprised if you fall into despair.
8. Sometimes, a little denial isn’t a bad thing.  Sometimes it’s the only way we can make it through.
9. During times of crisis, not sleeping makes sense.  Until the next crisis hits and we don’t have any reserves to handle it.
10. Thank God for friends.
11. If used correctly, crappy magazines and TV are a wonderful way to recharge/briefly escape.
12. Never underestimate how much a child understands.
13. Never underestimate the healing power of a child’s get-well card.
14. How did I ever doubt my husband? Ken’s a rock star.  Always is and always has been, and I can’t thank him enough for everything he does for me and my family, each and every day.
15. There’s definitely something to be said for the power of prayer.
16. Nurses are the most amazing people in the world.  ICU nurses kick some serious ass.
17. Acceptance is a powerful thing, and accepting someone in their entirety (both good and bad) may just be one of the most generous gifts we can ever give another human being.
18. Why the hell do we take so much for granted?
19. I am one blessed motherfucker.