Hi there!

I love to hear from my readers, and I read every single email you send me. However, please know I can’t respond to every email I receive. Please accept my apologies.

If you’re looking for marriage advice, my heart goes out to you. I know how hard a challenging marriage can be, and I wish you much love and support–you deserve that, as well as much happiness.

As of February 2015, I’ll be posting your problems to the site (not using your name) so that we can solve your issue together instead of replying to each individual comment. I believe this will be more beneficial than me attempting to reply to each individual email or comment, especially since there are probably several other folks out there dealing with your same problem. As other readers chime in, you’ll also get a wider range of advice.

If you’d like more detailed advice on the steps I took to reboot my own marriage, please take a look at my book 9 Steps to Heal Your Resentment and Reboot Your Marriage. I wrote this book for the thousands of readers who wrote in to let me know they were struggling with their own resentment. The book is a short, easy-to-read cheat-sheet for rebooting your marriage–something I wish someone had given me years ago.

If you’d like to see what I look like on paper, click here

If you’re interested in guest posting, see below.

Please know I’m not a therapist–I’m just a regular person trying to get her own marriage back on track. As such, the information on this site is not intended to replace professional advice or care. If you or your marriage are in trouble, please contact a licensed professional for help.

Thanks again for stopping by!

Much love,

P.S.: If you’d like to get in touch with me, you can reach me at
tanja [at] tanjapajevic [dot] com.


Guest Posting Guidelines:

Anything useful is good content for a guest post–just be sure to tailor your topic to my married-with-children readers. Possible topics include marriage or relationship issues, blended or extended families, child-care issues, self-care issues, work-life balance, etc.

Don’t be afraid to dig deep! Understanding how someone worked their way through a challenging time or situation can be incredibly helpful. Humor is always a winner.


  • Posts should be between 400 and 1200 words.
  • Post is original content and you agree not to publish the post elsewhere.
  • Include a 2-3 sentence bio with a link to your site.
  • No shameless self-promotion, product placement or excessive linking in the actual post.
  • Include up to 2 photos with your post, as long as they’re legal and properly attributed.
  • You’ll hear back from me within 2-4 weeks.

Thank you!