“There have been many junctures where we were ready to bail,” writes Iris Krasnow in Surrendering to Marriage: Husbands, Wives and Other Imperfections.
It seems to happen every December actually, when we are swirling through the holiday madness and thrust into our own childhood memories of Hanukkah and Christmas and being safe and loved by our own mothers and fathers. It’s a time each of us wants to be taken care of, not taking care of others (32).
Hmm…so that’s what’s going on. This passage makes me think about the different expectations we all bring to the holidays. Expectations that Ken and I, at least, usually forget to vocalize. Which means we start Assuming Things. Which will quickly bring down your holiday cheer, if you know what I’m talking about.
Yes, yes, we’re all sinking alongside you. But don’t worry–the holidays are almost over. Unless you’re Serbian, that is–then they last far into the New Year.
Oh, ho ho. Happy holidays!